The Yes/No Book is filled with new and specific concepts in personal effectiveness and time management.ï¿½ To make a valuable resource for readers, and to introduce non-readers to some of the core concepts of the book, I am preparing a dictionary.
It will be in 13 parts (Superstitious? Iï¿½m not) and will have around 50 entries.
Part 9: Transactional Analysis
What is going on underneath the bonnet, when you are finding it hard to say ï¿½noï¿½? The Yes/No Book uses a powerful model to help you understand this, from the psychological field of Transactional Analysis (TA).
Transactional Analysis (noun); a theory of psychology and psychotherapy, combining elements of psychoanalytic, humanist and cognitive approaches. Often abbreviated to TA. It was first developed by Canadian-born US psychiatrist Eric Berne, starting in the late 1950s. Used by therapists to support personal growth and personal change. The book ï¿½TA Todayï¿½ by Ian Stewart and Vann Joines offers a comprehensive but technical overview.
Drivers (noun); sets of behaviours we carry out to help us feel OK; to feel good about ourselves. The term was coined by Taibi Kahler, who grouped these sets of behaviours into five groups that he called ï¿½driversï¿½. Drivers form part of the body of knowledge of Transactional Analysis (qv). Since his research, a sixth driver has been posited. It is far from widely accepted by expert practitioners. So, we each have a subconscious internal model that says ï¿½Iï¿½m OK if I canï¿½ï¿½.
ï¿½ be perfect
ï¿½ be strong
ï¿½ please others
ï¿½ try hard
ï¿½ hurry up
ï¿½ be careful (not widely accepted)
Games (noun); a repeating pattern of behaviours that is unhelpful and leaves one or, usually both parties feeling frustrated, angry, upset or in another unresourceful state. Games form part of the body of knowledge of Transactional Analysis (qv) and were first articulated by TAï¿½s founder, Eric Berne. Berneï¿½s book ï¿½The Games People Playï¿½ became a best-seller of popular psychology. Deprecated.
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